Malva aides in stopping the cycles of rejection. Oftentimes, our perception of things has a direct effect on what we experience. When we are looking through the lens of past trauma, our perception may not be a true picture of present time reality. An initial trauma of rejection can sensitize a person to further perceived “slights” any time another falls short of what is expected in the relationship. This can cause distancing [“I’ll leave or withdraw so that you can’t hurt me.”] and also feelings of hostility — which prompts those they are in relationship with to also become defensive and withdraw. The cycle completes with the person feeling justified in their initial perception. Malva helps to desensitize, soothe and unravel the reinforced patterning. Malva helps us to find true connection in our relationships, facilitating the bravery needed to stay and experience the reality that’s beyond the initial perception, and melt away the feelings of paranoia and not being loved.